I received an email from a friend the other day that made me nod at the screen, “Been there. Man have I been there. We’ve all been there.”
She had been invited to go out for a night with a fairly new group of female friends and was stressing over what to wear.
It made me sad that this great friend who is funny, smart, sarcastic (which I thoroughly enjoy) would question her place in this new group based entirely on wardrobe and yet, we are all guilty of judging one another and of feeling inadequate if we leave the house looking like we’ve been baling hay all morning. But why?
When I mention this strange, albeit incredibly common insecurity to my husband it’s not that he doesn’t understand it’s that HE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND. He leaves the house wearing shorts until the 1st of November, Crocs year round, sometimes buttons are missing from his shirts, sometimes he has them all. His wardrobe has no bearing on how he feels about himself as a person, as a Dad, as a husband or as a friend.He oozes confidence, the smaller his swim suit, the more he struts. He simply can not understand why women put so much pressure on ourselves when it comes to the clothes we wear.
I found it funny that the reason I opened my email where I found my friend’s note in the first place was to send her a message describing my fabulous new rain coat.
I purchased a coat that was exactly what this mother of three has been looking for. First of all it had a manufacturers suggested retail price of $100. Yowza! This always grabs my attention. The actual price of the jacket was $26.99. Score. It is reversible which as you can imagine is a must-have item for all of the fashion houses this season and the tag had clearly been torn off (leading me to believe this item had been returned–their loss!) and the new tag was hand-written in fairly sloppy printing, “ladies outerwear, rain slicker.” A slicker! Sweet!
So, tomorrow I plan to wear my Beaver Canoe sweatshirt and Cotton Ginny sugar bags with my slicker. Spoiler alert, I’m going to wear the black side out. Please don’t judge me. Ladies, we’ve got enough to worry about, like why this coat was ever returned. What’s not to love?
